The Opinion of Others

Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business.

-Rachel Hollis

{A post from April that I never publishd…}

Last week I received a message that I took offense to. My guard immediately went up and I read the post through a certain lens. What I read was: you couldn’t cut it as a lawyer.

It got in my head for a few days. Why did I care what he thought of me? Why did I assume this was what he meant when he said I seemed happier now? Why did I let the words take me down a few notches? Especially on the heels of a huge weekend with @beautycounter where I was actually on stage training HUNDREDS of other consultants?

The truth is that even if he did mean I was a better mom than a lawyer, it doesn’t matter. Anyone else’s opinion of you doesn’t matter. What matters is how you feel about yourself. And unfortunately I let his words make me question myself for a few days. I wondered if it was true, that I WASN’T a good lawyer. Was something wrong with me because I couldn’t juggle being a mom and the demands of private practice when so many other people clearly do? My self confidence took a nose dive. The mental chatter wouldn’t stop.

Until I remembered who I am and why I’m not practicing law anymore. He knew I wasn’t happy as a lawyer, but he doesn’t know that I’m THRIVING as an entrepreneur. That I have a business I love, with over 100 other badass women on my team. That I look forward to working now and have found a job that’s financially rewarding AND making a positive social impact. That I have been home with my daughter since the day she’s been alive which itself is the biggest blessing given her kidney defect.

Outside voices don’t have to understand you. No one does. What matters is that you are following your heart and finding your passion and joy. I wasn’t when I was a lawyer. Today I am.

I am a pioneer of the clean beauty movement. I am a fearless leader. I am a wife. I AM a damn good mom. And above all else, I am proud of the path I’m on and the legacy I’m creating.

Don’t ever allow the opinions of others to get in the way of your goals and dreams. This is YOUR life. So live it for you. And go after what sets your soul on fire!